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THE HYGEINE OF MARRIAGE: LEARNING A NEW LANGUAGE- THE TRIBES
It is difficult to realize the extent to which society has been obsessed with setting up useless taboos and then expending an enormous quantity of moral energy in preserving them, unless we can stand outside of our civilization and observe our moral antics in an impartial way, pretty much as a man from Mars might. But this is not easy to do. It is about as easy as jumping out of one's own skin. The ethnologists, however, may be of some help to us in furnishing examples from other people's moral attitudes, or mores, as they are called. These may seem absurd to us, but are sometimes matters of life and death to them, and by analogy we may see that some parts of our own morality which we regard as tremendously important are equally absurd.
These students of customs and cultures can tell us, for example, of a savage tribe, the Hottentots, in which the women go practically naked but wear a head-dress without which they are very careful never to be seen. One of these women would be mortified to have a strange man see her without this customary covering. Tuareg men wear a cloth over the mouth which they think it indecent to remove except in dire necessity, as in a medical examination. Indian women who lived along the northwest coast of North America wore a labret, or lip ornament, and were as much embarrassed to be seen without this as one of our women would be if someone came upon her unexpectedly when she was partially dressed.
There are some tribes, too, among whom the navel is concealed, although the rest of the body may be exposed without shame. Now some of our readers may not know what the navel is, nor would they be much the wiser if we told them that it is the umbilicus. But we dare not say plainly what it is, for that would involve using a vulgar expression, not tolerated in the best of society. And yet, what is it? Nothing but a slight depression in the abdomen where the umbilical cord, through which we received nourishment before we were born, was attached. To return to our story, a case is recorded in which a woman in the Philippine Islands, on the approach of a stranger, quickly put a shirt on a naked little boy so that his navel would be concealed, not feeling that is was necessary to cover any other part of his body.
Again, some tribes have been found in which the women-expose their breasts and thighs freely but become embarrassed if anyone stares at their feet. Chinese women once regarded it as obscene to show their feet. We used to think a woman shameless if she exposed any part of her leg except the ankle, or if she went bathing without wearing stockings* and enough other paraphernalia to sink a Channel swimmer.
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NATURAL MENS HEALTH
There are many differences between men and women, and one of the areas in which this is most obvious is in the way they deal with health issues. Most men are impatient with illness, especially their own. They don't have time to be slowed down by bad health and want to resolve problems quickly.
What I have also observed about men, both as clients and as friends, is that it often takes a little time for them to change unhealthy lifestyle habits. I think part of the reason for this is that it takes them a while to admit to having a problem. On the other hand, once they accept that there is a health issue that needs to be dealt with and decide to make a change, they can become quite obsessive. On the whole, men are very driven by goals and once they're on a roll, there is no stopping them.
In my private practice, I have treated many men but I have noticed a particular upsurge of interest in men's health over the last five years. Certainly, when I first began my practice in the mid-80s, the vast majority of my clients were women and children. It wasn't until the 90s that the husbands of the women I treated started being sent to me - some willingly and some reluctantly! These men were not 'new age' men. They were from all walks of life: businessmen, tradesmen, athletes, lawyers - even a few doctors! Many of these men had already been down the orthodox medicine path and come away very disillusioned. So often they had been told 'You must lose weight' or 'You need to cut down your stress', but they were never given any advice on how to do this.
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